I’ve always thought that getting someone else off by hand is an art. We’re all accustomed to our own touch. When you’re getting yourself off by hand, you know exactly what to do and when to do it. If you’re getting someone else off by hand, you’re going against the odds. You might go too fast when they need it slow. You might go too hard when they need it soft. It takes a ton of communication and practice to get it right. I’ve only gotten good handjobs from longterm partners because they took the time to figure out what worked for me. I’ve tried to teach others how to get me off but they just weren’t listening.