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Divorce: Sense and Nonsense
If you’ve followed me on my other main platforms, Twitter and TikTok, you know I’m in the middle of my second divorce. My first divorce was in 2011 after being married for nearly 16 years. The second divorce is coming after being with my second wife for half as many years.
The first divorce wasn’t a surprise to me at all. Everything had been telegraphed for at least a year and a half before she announced she wanted a divorce. Her habits had changed tremendously and she began doing things she’d previously said she would never do. She had become a lot less communicative and had been intentionally leaving me out of decision-making in a number of key areas. She had dumped all of our married friends, proclaiming them all to be boring, and had picked up a new set of single friends who had lots more free time and didn’t talk about marriage and kids. She had also stopped taking her anti-depressive medication cold turkey, against the wishes of her doctor. So by the time she finally stated she wanted a divorce, I was not surprised at all. I moved into the guest bedroom and we began living separate lives. We continued to live amicably for the next 10 months while I looked for a place to live and saved money for the move. We remained amicable throughout the years after the divorce, so much so that it was a problem with some of my subsequent girlfriends that I was still on good terms with my ex-wife even…
